What is more common than adultery, potentially as toxic, and considered by experts to be lethal for most marriages?

Nagging.

No, this isn’t a joke – though comedians for decades have made their wives’ nagging the brunt of many a joke….

When a wife repeatedly bugs her husband about a certain issue, and the husband shuts down and doesn’t deal with the topic at hand – everyone loses: the husband feels badgered (or babied) and the wife feels like her needs are being ignored.
Sound familiar?
It’s this type of poor communication that can kill a marriage -and it’s a slow and torturous death.

The real issue, I think, is that women and men are so intrinsically different.
We are biologically different and soon, I believe, they will discover how differently our brains are wired.

For instance – on as daily basis, both my husband and my 11 year old son lose or forget things.
I have countless female friends who witness the same with the males in their families.
Let me tell you something : it’s very hard to NOT nag when that happens!

We women, all too easily, become the “mommy” to our husbands in a scenario like that – another lose/lose situation.
Men don’t really want us to be “mommy” (even though they act like babies : ) and we don’t want that either.

Nagging and/or being nagged are very subjective – some men are capable of being asked to do something over and over and won’t experience it as being nagged, while for others, the slightest suggestion of being told what to do is considered relentless nagging.

Good communication  is truly the best way to prevent the demise of any relationship.
You can weather any storm  – from infidelity tounsexy naggingby getting to the root of all kinds of issues with your partner.

But here’s where those differences come into play again: men typically, don’t like to talk much , and we gals can yap, yap, yap.
Makes communicating a little difficult, doesn’t it ?
And that’s why we are all so confounded by relationships – opposites attract  – and “being helpful” can be experienced as “nagging”.

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Wow.
In case you didn’t already get how incredibly fearful and militant the leaders in Iran are, here’s one more tidbit to disgust and disturb you:
They are cracking down on Barbie dolls again – they are closing down stores and confiscating poor Barbie.

Yes, those beautiful Barbie dolls are a target in Iran again.
Our Barbie is seen as a threat to the Muslim culture and she epitomizes everything they hate about Americans.

Think about it : Barbie is sexy and voluptuous and proud of it.
Barbie is au courant – always keeping up with the times.
Barbie is independent – she doesn’t take any sh-t from Ken.
Barbie takes care of her looks – she doesn’t want or need to hide that gorgeous face and  amazing hair behind a schmatta.
Barbie travels the world, is smart and open minded, and can exist in many different kinds of cultures.
Barbie makes her own money – LOTS of it!  She has made the men behind her at Mattel fabulously wealthy.
(Note: the men behind the powerful woman, not the other way around!)

I feel sorry for each and every female in Iran for the incredible restrictions under which they must live and for not having the ability reach the height of their personal power like our Barbie.

Despite the perfect body (I’m sure she’s done lots of plastic surgery – no pun intended : ) -
she really is a great role model.

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No child should EVER be scared of their teachers or their school.

Mean kids and bullies can turn the school experience into a nightmare for some- but when teachers are abusive to their students, that is a violation of trust and they should be fired immediately.

A school for children with special needs in Connecticut reportedly has a room the size of a closet into which children who misbehave are put.

Apparently, there is a lot of screaming that goes on between the out of control children and the out of control faculty.

Big difference: the children cannot help it and are in the school because of their inability to regulate themselves

The teachers have no excuse.

Patience is not something that comes easily, especially with difficult children – but special ed teachers are trained to deal with exactly that. Not to mention, come 3pm , they are done until the next day.

Our youngest child has full blown ADHD, learning issues, and emotional issues. Thankfully, she is in a great school that addresses such issues and, at school, she is an angel.
(Unfortunately, at home she acts out, but that’s another story…)

Parents who have children at this special Ed school in Connecticut have reason to worry and should make sure appropriate actions take place – including a full investigation and perhaps closing of the school.

School should be a safe haven for all children, and no parent should need to worry that their child might be abused there.

“This story reminds me of all those horrible situations of abuse in nursing homes.

Wow. As if life wasn’t stressful enough without having to worry about our children and elderly parents being mistreated in – supposedly – safe environments..

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